Come Holy Spirit, come.

Change my heart.

Give me a heart that desires the things you do.

That loves without borders.

Align my heart to yours.

Change me into the woman you desire me to be.

Lord, help me to seek your will above my own.

And cleanse me of anything that breaks your heart.

I pray these things in Your name for Your honor and glory.

Amen.

“Why Women Suck”

Just stop already.

I don’t typically use this blog to rant. Or to stand on top of my soap box. But, if I can be honest, enough is enough already.

The other day a friend of mine did a live video on facebook about why women suck. 

Ouch, right?

But here’s the thing. We kind of do. 

Just like my friend, I have had just about enough of this cyber woman bullying that just keeps happening. 

You know what I’m talking about. The women who hide behind a Facebook app and troll their newsfeed looking for anywhere and everywhere that they can share their opinion and why they are right and why they are better than you. 

You know what I’m talking about, right? Maybe you’ve even been guilty of it a few times. 

I will never forget the time that me and the kids had been in a car accident. Hard to believe it will be 3 years ago, next month. I remember being a part of a ‘crunchy mom’ group in Houston. The night of the accident or the next day, I can’t remember, I shared how grateful I was to be alive in the group. And how grateful I was to God for not allowing anything to happen to my kids. 

What happened next was disgusting. 

I was accused of thinking that my kids were better than everyone else’s kids. I was accused of thinking that our lives mattered more than others. I was accused of believing that God loved me and my kids more than the kids He hadn’t saved. 

It got real ugly real fast.

And the truth is, the only way to be offended by what I had posted was to look for it. 

I didn’t think I was better than anyone. I certainly didn’t believe that my kids deserved to live more so than another child, but here I was being attacked and bullied right in the comfort of my own home. 

I felt targeted. Isolated. Confused. Alone. But what I’ve realized almost 3 years later is that this is a common occurrence. 

This happens more often than it should. And it needs to stop.

I don’t want to act like I’m better than anyone. I’ve not always had the nicest things to say about other women. I won’t pretend like I have. And I have been working on that. I have asked God to remove that from my heart. But what I won’t do is bully someone from behind a computer screen. What I won’t do is team up with other women to make someone feel bad. What I won’t do is say something behind my computer screen that I wouldn’t say to their face. 

But what I will do is pray for them. If it’s something serious, I’ll reach out to them privately. If I can’t find it in my heart to say something nice, I’ll pray for myself. If I can’t figure out what to pray, I’ll simply go to Him and ask Him to tell me how I need to pray. 

Because the truth is, I’m not better than anyone else. Neither are you. Let me repeat that, we are not better than anyone else. 

So who cares if someone wore a shirt you didn’t like. Who cares if their makeup made them look ‘cheap’. Who cares if they aren’t feeding their kids gluten free, soy free, non dairy pancakes for breakfast. Who cares if they’re wearing something that you wouldn’t wear. 

Seriously, who cares?! 

Because let me tell you something. Let me give you a little inside tip. When you start pointing out the flaws of others, it’s so you can avoid pointing out the flaws in yourself. I know that because that was me. 

Maybe I wasn’t doing it on Facebook or other social media outlets, but I was doing it in my marriage. I would tell you everything that was wrong with my ex husband. I would tell you everything that he did. And you would agree with me most of the time, but the truth is, I did that because I didn’t want you to see how messed up I was. I didn’t want you to be able to point out my flaws. 

My shortcomings. 

So when you find yourself thinking you’re better than. When you find yourself pointing out the flaws of everyone else. Maybe it’s time you to go to Him and talk to Him about your own flaws. 

Because I’ve said it a thousand times, hurting people hurt people. 

So maybe it’s not that women suck, so much, but maybe it’s that there are a lot of us that are hurting. And maybe, just maybe, we’re the ones hurting ourselves. 

And if that’s true, then I guess we do kind of suck, huh?

Ladies’ Tea

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Local friends! I hope you can join us! It’s going to be such a lovely event. Bring a friend! We only have a limited number of tickets, so be sure to get those early! Child care will be provided. And all proceeds will go to Redeemed Ministries!

Think Before You Pink.

It’s October! A month that used to be a lot more exciting until I moved to Texas and October still feels like Septemeber, which remarkably still felt like August. In fact, I don’t think Texas temperature has changed at all in the last 6 months. But it’s still October, and while one of my favorite months it is also Breast Cancer Cure Month.

I’ve been there. I have worn pink, taken off my bra, shopped only pink labels, all in an effort to do my part by helping breast cancer victims and survivors fight their fight and eventually find a cure.

And while I encourage you to help these women, this fight, and their mission, I always want you to think about PREVENTION.

I agree that a cure would be amazing, but I also think that it would be even more amazing if no one, not one woman or man or child, no one would have to go through this awful disease.

Ask companies why they still use parabens? Or phthalates? Ask them why they hide behind words like ‘fragrance’ and loop holes. Ask them why they don’t test their products to see if they are safe for us to use? Ask them why they changed their ingredients for the European Union, but not you. And finally, ask them why they are raising money for a cure when their products contain ingredients that have been directly linked to the disease of the cure that they are so desperately trying to raise money for.

It’s all about money. I encourage you to check out the movie ‘Pink Ribbon, Inc.’ let it shed some light on you. (And get ready to get mad.)

I am not telling you NOT to support these fighters in an effort to find a cure, but rather I just want you to see that some of those companies aren’t as compassionate as you are. It’s not their mother, sister, daughter, wife that they are fighting for.

I know that it’s hard to avoid all of these toxins and chemicals. They are everywhere. And I know we can’t just live in a bubble for the rest of our lives. And I’m not saying that we haven’t already been exposed, but what I am saying is that we can do what we can do with what we have. Switching to safe, non toxic personal care and beauty products is a great first step. This is an easy switch.

Tell companies that you are tired of it. That you deserve better. Tell them with your hard-earned dollar. If enough people tell them, they will listen. And one day we won’t have to worry about safe and toxic. That’s what I’m fighting for. That’s why I stand behind Beautycounter and their mission to get safe products into the hands of everyone. You deserve better. We deserve better.

Join me and the rest of us at Beautycounter, and say enough is enough. Help us effect change all the way to Washington. Because when you know better, you do better.

To check out the entire Beautycounter line, please visit http://www.laurenfalber.beautycounter.com

You can learn more about prevention,

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10 THINGS You Didn’t Know About the Personal Care Industry and Our Health

“We often find that people are shocked when we tell the Beautycounter story. They assume, understandably, that the personal care industry is regulated, but that’s just not the case.

Here, Founder and CEO Gregg Renfrew takes us through 10 things you didn’t know about our health and the products that we use every day.

She believes that we all deserve better—in fact, this belief is at the core of everything we do here at Beautycounter, and why our products are developed on a foundation of safety and transparency.

(1) The United States has not passed a federal law governing the cosmetics industry since 1938.

(2) There are approximately 12,000 chemicals used in the cosmetics industry—about 90% of these have never been assessed for the impact on long-term health.

(3) On average, an American woman uses 12 beauty products every day.

(4) This means that she’s likely exposed to 100 or more chemicals in those 12 products.

(5) Though it hasn’t been proven, some believe that women who wear lipstick will consume seven pounds of it, on average, over the course of a decade.

(6) Because of intellectual property laws, companies do not need to disclose what’s in “fragrance,” which is considered a “trade secret.” It may include hundreds of secret ingredients.

(7) The European Union has banned or restricted 1300 chemicals from cosmetics, but the United States has only banned or restricted 11.

(8) In the United States, 1 in 2 men and 1 in 3 women will be diagnosed with cancer in their lifetimes.

(9) Currently, 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer. Only about 10% of these women carry a gene for the disease.

(10) 1 in 3 children will be diagnosed with autism, ADHD, allergies, or asthma. Though these issues are complex, exposure to toxic chemicals is thought to be one factor for the increase in these disorders or health issues.”

Learn more at http://www.laurenfalber.beautycounter.com